Chronic Oversharing as Intimacy-Compulsion Wrong Attractor: The Disclosure-Excess Architecture, Appropriate-Boundary Foreclosure Basin, and the Return to Calibrated Relational Pacing

Chronic oversharing — the systematic and compulsive disclosure of personal information at a rate and depth that exceeds relational readiness — constitutes a recognizable dynamical attractor in interpersonal field theory. We term this attractor the disclosure-excess architecture (DEA) and analyze its structure using the Phronesis Issues framework of ground states, wrong attractors, and foreclosure basins.

The ground state S^0 for interpersonal disclosure is calibrated relational pacing: the capacity to modulate depth and frequency of self-revelation in responsive proportion to the relationship's developmental stage, the other's expressed receptivity, and the ambient emotional register. Chronic oversharing (W) displaces this ground state by instituting a compulsive forward-disclosure imperative that systematically forecloses the possibility of graduated intimacy.

We identify nine propositions (P1–P9) characterizing the architecture, basin geometry, and return dynamics. Key findings include: the DEA sustains itself through an anxious-connectivity feedback loop; appropriate-boundary formation is actively inhibited within the basin; the subjective experience of oversharing is typically coded as “openness” rather than compulsion; and calibrated pacing is accessible but requires explicit destabilization of the disclosure imperative.

Therapeutic and relational implications are discussed.