Compulsive Overcommunication as Anxiety-Management-Through-Contact Wrong Attractor: The Constant-Checking Architecture, Relational-Flooding Basin, and the Return to Calibrated Communicative Presence

Compulsive overcommunication (W_ COC) is formalized within the displacement framework as a stable wrong attractor: the chronic pattern of excessive messaging, checking in, updating, and contact-seeking driven not by genuine information to share or connection to offer, but by anxiety that is momentarily relieved by the act of sending and the anticipation of receiving a response. The overcommunicator texts did you get my last message?, sends multiple updates about trivial events, requires constant acknowledgment, and experiences silence from others as threatening evidence of relational rupture.

The healthy ground state S^0 is defined as calibrated communicative presence: the capacity to send and receive messages in proportion to genuine information need or connection impulse, with comfortable tolerance of contact gaps as baseline rather than as threat. The wrong attractor is maintained by three interlocking mechanisms. First, contact-as-security encoding: the felt sense of relational security is linked to active, real-time contact rather than to an internalized felt sense of the relationship's continuity, so that without confirmation the relationship feels existentially uncertain.

Second, the message-anxiety relief cycle: the act of sending briefly lowers anxiety (contact made); the absence of reply within the expected window rebuilds anxiety to a level higher than before, requiring the next message. Third, the recipient withdrawal loop: overcommunication produces fatigue and avoidance in recipients, which the overcommunicator correctly reads as reduced availability—confirming the need for more contact to restore connection, which deepens the withdrawal, completing the self-sealing circuit.

Nine formal propositions characterize the dynamical structure; a coupled ordinary differential equation model is developed to exhibit the basin formally; and a careful distinction is drawn from healthy check-ins, separation anxiety, and the relational surveillance patterns of controlling attachment. Return paths via internalized-security building, communication-gap tolerance practice, and recipient feedback literacy are described.

The central therapeutic insight is that the overcommunicator is not seeking the recipient but seeking proof of their own relational existence—and that proof can only be established from the inside.